Helping High Achievers Have More Satisfying Relationships
Loving Well is a Skill Set™
Loving Well is a Skill Set™
Do you ask yourself any of these questions:
How is it that I perform so well professionally, and struggle so much personally?
I already do more than my fair-share in the relationship…so why do I need to be the person who is working on changing the dynamic?
What are boundaries, and how do I identify and implement them in relationships?
I know I’m a capable, deserving, person…so why do I sometimes feel like such a failure?
Me and my partner are both smart and caring; why can’t we figure-out how to manage our [fill in the blank: money; domestic tasks; emotions; co-parenting; holidays].
I’m not being understood; is there a way I can communicate more effectively?
I have all these important relationships in my life, so why do I feel so alone?
Why do I feel like I’m doing something wrong, and worry I’ll be found-out, even though logically I know it isn’t true?
When will all the therapy / personal work I’ve done actually give me an experience of having more fulfilling and successful relationships?
Learning for Relating
Throughout our lifespan we can develop skills to better understand our thinking, better navigate our feelings, and get better outcomes in all areas of our lives. When we learn principles and practices for relating to our cognition, emotion, and behavior, we improve our decision making, problem solving, and ability to meet individual and collective goals. What I am particularly passionate about is how these skills create more connection and satisfaction in our relationships, give us an ability to practice loving well, and ultimately leave a legacy we’re proud of.
“THE WAY WE ENGAGE WITH OUR EMOTIONS SHAPES:
our actions
our careers
our leadership
our relationships
our families
our health
our wellbeing
our happiness
our organizations
our communities
EVERYTHING”
Qualifications, and how this became my thing…
Twenty years ago I entered a Master’s program in clinical psychology wanting to make meaning of the human experience and understand myself and others deeply.
I graduated, completed a reputable internship program, became a licensed MFT in CA, and was hitting many markers of having a successful career. Despite this, I was struggling personally, (and TBH with helping many of my clients), translate all the theory and rigor with meeting relationship goals.
Furthering my training in methodologies that were educational, experiential, and oriented toward intervention I gained a belief that change requires cognitive thinkings skills, AND emotive feeling skills, AND behavioral action based skills. This insight, coupled with the recognition that change happens in relationships, inspired my focus on social-emotional development.
“As a longtime student of the social sciences and practitioner in psychology and relationship work I continuously felt dissatisfied and often in disagreement with definitions of love, until really rumbling with Brené Brown’s research findings, and realizing her definition described, what I believe, it means to love well. Then and now I am inspired to know ‘loving well’ involves skills we can develop!” - Michelle Lorenz, MFT